As my time in Malawi comes to a close (I have about 8 days left), I have no choice but to begin and reflect on the last four months as a whole.
Slowly but surely I began to love this place, to love everything about it. I began to love the people at church that shake my hand and greet me with smiles. I began to love the student, Chimwemwe who drops by the house unexpectedly just to chat (often for hours), and the students at my school who complain about Malawi, but clearly take pride in this country and the fact that they call it home. I began love the Jacaranda trees that bloom wildly around the city, the hot air, the stillness of a night with no electricity. When I stand up in front of a group to introduce myself, I start by saying, “I really love Malawi”, and it couldn’t be truer.
But at the same time, I’m startled at how routine things have become; my life in Africa has normalized. I never thought this experience would stop being an experience and start just being life. But, I think, that’s part of the experience.
When I’m gazing out the window at Ndirande Mountain during my geography lesson or I’m sitting around the dinner table with the Olivers. Maybe it’s late at night and I’m cross-legged on my bed in the dark or driving through the Malawian bush, mashed into the back seat. Or at the lake, sitting on the deck of a boat watching the sunset. It’s during these times that I become conscious of how lucky I am or how crazy I am, depending on the way you look at things. But day-to-day, its just life. Dangerously easy to get used to.
Dangerous because it would be so easy to stay. Strangely enough, I’ve fallen into a comfort zone here. Going home will be the difficult part. I think to go home and face all of the sacrifices I made; to face my friends and everything I have missed, and to face my future will be the tough part. Plus the fact that I am really, really going to miss it here.
So for what reason am I going? Why do I feel compelled to leave a place if I love it so much? It’s very simple, actually. I need to go home. I need to see my family again. I miss them tremendously. It’s True, I have a family here but, I’m ready to be a Bryant again.
And I need to graduate high school.
My feet are cracked, and perpetually black on the bottoms, my hair is ratty, split and damaged from the dry air. Even Reverend Nkata tells me I need to brush it. My nails are not transparent as they should be and I miss my family and friends, but somehow I just can’t imagine leaving this place and these people that I have learned to love. How can I even begin to say goodbye?

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December 1, 2009 at 8:56 am
Robin Pippin
This is lovely, Marie Claire! And having been with you there in the warm heart of Africa, I can understand where your heart is right now. Praying for you as you begin the journey back here . . .
December 1, 2009 at 9:33 am
Ciona
Love you heaps! Praying for your last week of Malawian life for now, for your transition back to the States and for future opportunities for you to return to your Malawian home someday. Hugs, hugs! We cannot wait to see you and miss you. Peace, my friend.
December 1, 2009 at 8:24 pm
Andrea Murdock
Can’t believe you time there with the Olivers is almost up. I know you’ll be shocked when life begins to be normal again here, but you’ll forever be changed. Please share some of that with us!
December 2, 2009 at 3:19 am
Kim
much love to you, my sweet friend, as you wrestle over these next few weeks. You went with such a beautiful open heart and it was filled!
December 2, 2009 at 4:07 am
lanecia rouse
MC Bryant
Looking forward to having you in our home and sharing a nice cup of tea, hearing more of your story as it unfolds. When you are ready to visit the Rouse House, please let us know.
Wow. You write so well. What a gift. Ciona and I had the best conversation about your blog entries this evening at Fido.
I have so many questions, but I will hold them.
Enjoy the remaining days of your time in Malawi. Give the Olivers a big hug for me. Looking forward to possibly seeing them and your other friends in March.
Peace.
December 3, 2009 at 1:32 am
LilO
ha!
finishing high school!
But, MC this was a very touching piece and well written as usual
December 3, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Herb
How different your life will be now because of the risks you have taken to do something DIFFERENT. Even tho the process is not clean and always pretty, it is profound . We are so proud to know such a young lady…and can’t wait to see what happens NEXT. Love, Sue and Herb
December 4, 2009 at 9:28 pm
Susan Brantley
Marie Claire – I have not read your blog until today. After reading this reflection, my heart goes out to you. Since I have worked with young adults who have served in mission – in this county and internationally – I often hear of the mixed feelings about returning. You are coming back a changed person – you bring wonderful stories of your expeirences that you must share. You can broaden others through your experiences. It might be tricky readjusting to life here, but be patient with yourself and others. This experience has shaped you and will now help inform your decisions. What a wonderful opportunity you have had – bless you and safe travles.